Definitely going to see this

I knew Queen and Common were doing a movie together (was even in NYC and saw when they were shooting) but I didn't know it was going to be anything like this. Can't wait.

Romantic Relationships

Why do people have romantic relationships anymore?

Are they even really worth all the trouble? The tears, the fights, and the heartache?

I know that there are only a few people in this world that are blessed enough to actually find a person with whom they share a mutual maturity level and love that really can endure…but in my opinion there are quite a few people out there that THINK they are in that select pool but really aren't. And then there the people that just don't and probably never will find something so real. And I think there's a lot more of those kinds of people in this world.

Relationships are hard they take this strange kind of work where two people are shooting for something that seems so simple. They can make you feel, say, and do things you never imagined.  They can build you up and they can seriously tear you down.

I thought about this for about an hour and a half while I waited for one of my best friends to come to my house. My friend is 23 years old and married to a guy she's been with since about our senior year of high school. This guy is about a year younger than her in age and even younger in the mental sense. In my opinion their marriage was one of passion and not well-thought out on either side. When her husband was struck with some sort of stress-related mental breakdown I guess it made them realize how much they loved each other and they decided to get married (I would pretty much say they eloped but I can't exactly cause the families were there but she didn't tell anybody else).

Not even a full year later, I have to provide a shoulder for this friend to cry on because her husband is cheating on her and just might leave for this other ex-girlfriend chick he's been messing with (I really am not trying to put her biz all out there…sorry). While I'm giving her words of encouragement and advising her to really examine the situation (I really just wanna tell her to bounce but I just don't think that's my place considering she is married to the dude) I'm asking myself why she even married him. Why did she even put herself in the position to go through this? To rearrange your life so that own happiness is placed in the hands of another person who will most likely let you down.

I know that nobody really wants to be alone but it seems that being alone is jut so much easier and maybe a little better if you're not in that small percentage of people that can really handle relationships.

This might be shameful....

But I can't get this freakin song out my head! I love it!



I know it's sad

Pretty Fly for a White Guy

I will admit, when I was younger I only ever liked White guys. I mean there were NO black boys in my little Catholic school class until like 3rd grade so they were I knew.

Not sure what happened or when this occurred, by I "crossed over" and I loved and appreciate my Black males. Sure there were White guys I thought were cute but that was about it. And after high school, it was OVER especially considering few guys I were around were kinda lame (yeah I said it).

Cut to college where I'm pretty much removed from White people in general (that's for another post!). However, I saw that new Jamie Foxx movie Law Abiding Citizen, over the weekend and I spent the entire time drooling over Gerard Butler!

I felt like making a list of White guys that could get it....(in no particular order)

1. Gerard Butler (he's newest to the list)

2. Jude Law (I mean did you see him in The Holiday?)

4. Johnny Depp

5. Channing Tatum

I could probably come up with a couple more...but let me slow my roll!

Precious: My Commentary

I was one of those unfortunate people that didn't get to see Precious this weekend because everybody and they momma did. Even though I'm in the midst of a stressful week, I took the time this evening to go see it. And now I'm gonna took a little more time out to give my commentary on the movie.
First, I better see some Oscar, Golden Globe, and all that ish nominees come out for this movie. Everyone, and literally everyone was good. Mariah suprised me (she looked a lil rough without the makeup) and I didn't realize how sexy Lenny Kravitz was until I saw him stripped down to a regular looking man in this movie. Mo'Nique...DAMN! I mean I freaking hated her! I'm still trying to remind myself it wasn't real because she was that good. Gabourey Sidibe was spectacular...she made Precious come alive and seem so real.

The movie addresses an issue that is a serious problem for all but particularly in the Black community. Men raping and molesting young children and women allowing it to happen.

In the end when Mo'Nique's character confesses to the things she did she displays a hatred for Precious for "taking her man". It was disgusting and disturbing that a woman can look down on her own child and blame them when the man they are with is abusing their child.

It's not that uncommon actually. It happens all the time but nobody ever knows until it's too late if they ever find out at all. Kids are afraid to talk, mothers blame their children and choose a man over there own child because they are hungry for a love of their own.

I'm happy to see this issue being discussed more and brought to the forefront (I've seen it in two films now in 2 weeks) and I hope that people begin to wake up and stop this monster from continuing to ruin children.