The truth is for the hoes…

"I'm out here tellin these hoes the truth! I lie to you because I care about yo feelings, girl!"

As a black person (or a white person who occasionally let's their TV idle on BET for a couple hours) might find recognize those words of Jody, the protagonist in the John Singleton movie Baby Boy. It comes from the part of the movie where Jody's baby momma and girl, Yvette, finds out that Jody's been creepin around and of course doin what n*ggas do best lying (please forgive me men but I feel it's the truth). Everybody knows and probably laughs all through that scene when they get to arguing, he hits her, and then goes and gives her some head to make up for it (like a n*gga would be still able to walk steadily on two legs out of my house, let alone the bedroom, after laying hands on me).

But this quote from this particular part of the movie just can't go unnoticed. Lying to the person you love because you're trying to save your ass you care about their feelings. I think almost everyone can say they are guilty of it, from something big to something small.

Girl: Does this top look ok with these shoes?

Boy: Yeah, baby, you look great…(Umm I can see all your fat rolls in that tiny ass top.)

Or

Boy Scorned: So how many times did you fuck him?

Cheatin Sista: 2. (5…wait there was that night in the hot tub…6.)

Of course we all beg for honesty, I think we are deserving of honesty. But I think by this point we all know the truth hurts. Yes, the man asks how many times his girl slept with another guy, but all he really needed to know was that it happened, right? Knowing the details only make him feel worse, right? HOWEVER, his girl is lying to him, isn't that wrong? If and when the truth comes out wouldn't that just create another, possibly bigger problem in the future?

While I would love to say honesty is the best policy, I'm guilty of being in both scenarios and in both roles at one time or another (well not quite sure about the first one lol).

Every time I watch Baby Boy and this scene comes up I always think about how this is the sad reality for relationships and it's so f*cked up what they're doing. I wanna give some great commentary about how people should just be honest and not lie but I cannot. I can only come up with more questions.

When you're in a relationship, you of course shouldn't be engaging in behavior that's going to put you in that situation in the first place but that is just the nature of the beast. However, one may argue why continue to lie to the person you love?

On the other side of the fence, you love the person you are with, not the person you messed around with. You love the person you are with, even if they are a little thicker, you like it (you just need them to buy clothes in their size). You know that telling them that they look fat or that they cheated is really going to hurt their feelings, would start a big argument, and could put a relationship that you want in jeopardy.

I need thoughts on this…